{"id":1721,"date":"2007-08-25T00:04:00","date_gmt":"2007-08-24T19:04:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/?p=1721"},"modified":"2007-08-25T00:04:00","modified_gmt":"2007-08-24T19:04:00","slug":"communication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/?p=1721","title":{"rendered":"Communication"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you really want to change someone’s mind, to truly communicate with them, you need to understand their point of view. Simply bludgeoning a person with logic or volume will never do anything beyond forcing them to fall silent when you’re around. This is not a long term victory.<\/p>\n

This makes communicating across the deep issues and divides of our society supremely difficult. For me to understand the point of view of a committed anti-abortionist, a gung-ho Republican, or an anti-immigration racist … I need to get inside of their heads. I have to get their ideas all over my brain in order to see the underlying logic in a compelling way. This requires an honest openness to having my own opinions changed … and it’s not easy at all. <\/p>\n

The payoff is big: I think that it’s something like what amnesiadust<\/a> has told me about aikido. Once you’re comfortable on either side of a debate, once you’re as facile with the other guy’s logic as your own … you have a significant chance of not only winning that particular argument … but you have a nonzero chance of gaining a real convert as well.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, it’s uncomfortable to realize how much of my own position is knee jerk.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If you really want to change someone’s mind, to truly communicate with them, you need to understand their point of view. Simply bludgeoning a person with logic or volume will never do anything beyond forcing them to fall silent when you’re around. This is not a long term victory.<\/p>\n

This makes communicating across the deep . . . → Read More: Communication<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1721"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1721"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1721\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1721"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1721"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chris.dwan.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1721"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}